10 Signs you prioritise romance over everything else

10 Signs you prioritise romance over everything else

Romantic relationships are amazing, but there is need for balance in life. Relationships need to be healthy. You need to have a strong self-relationship. You need to prioritise other relationships in your life beyond romance.

1. You feel depressed and lonely when you are not in a romantic relationship

This is because you believe that love is only found in romantic relationships. There are other relationships where you can give and receive love. Invest in yourself, your circle and the greater good.

2. You stay in an unhealthy relationship

When you put too much emphasis on romance, you stay in a relationship even if it's unhealthy, and abusive and your needs are not being met.

Prioritise your self-relationship and quality of life. Invest in self-care and learn to set boundaries.

3. You give up friendships when you get into a romantic relationship

You attach to a partner and give up on other relationships. You might not trust your friends or believe that you might lose your partner if you spend time with other people.

Friendships, family and community are essential to buffer your relationships. They allow space in your relationship and you get a support system.

4. You have difficulty staying single

Each time you break up you're on the lookout for another relationship. You do not give yourself time to be alone.

Following a breakup, give yourself time to learn to be alone. Invest in your interests and hobbies. This prevents emotional dependency in relationships.

5. You do not take time to heal breakups

Following a breakup, you might jump onto the next relationship and not allow yourself to heal.

A break-up has its own set of emotions and root causes. When you take a break from dating, you can process your break ups to learn to do things differently in the next relationship.

6. You have unhealthy habits in relationships

When you move too fast from one relationship to another, you do not take the time to assess what needs to improve in your life. This is because you put more emphasis on being in a relationship rather than self-reflection.

Your self-relationship is more important and you need to assess where you are with your self-connection before you get into a relationship, instead of prioritising a relationship with others.

7. You are unhappy even when in a relationship

When you prioritise romance you do not prioritise your well-being. You might realise that even though you're in a relationship, you aren't fulfilled or content.

Take the time to invest in yourself. Invest in your purpose and find your joy outside your relationship.

8. You are in am on and off relationship

When you end up in an on-and-off relationship, it's because you're putting emphasis on romance instead of prioritising reflection and healing.

On-and-off relationships are due to a lack of root cause analysis, lack of self-management and poor conflict resolution. If you take time to address the reasons why you broke up and work together and individually to improve how you relate with your environment, your reconnection might improve.

9. You have been grieving a lost lover for too long.

If you broke up with a partner for more than a year and you're still grieving the loss of a relationship you might not be paying attention to all the love around you.

Breakups hurt, but if you are taking too long to let go of an ex, you prioritise romance and are attached to an outcome. Learn to make peace with rejection. Let go of an attachment to an outcome and live in the moment. Heal your life.

10. You neglect your children

Your relationship with your young children usually suffers when you're in any one of the situations above when you prioritise romance.

Many people in unhealthy relationships, grieving a breakup or who hop from one relationship to another cannot be present in the lives of their young kids. They are not necessarily aware of this aspect of themselves because they are more focused on their own needs.

Other parents can give up their children or reject their children for a partner if their partner doesn't want their children. Some parents do this to pretend they do not have children.

Did any of these resonate? Do the work to heal the inner child. Additionally, learn the objective evaluation of triggers to meet your unmet needs.